The “Bring It On: All or Nothing” actor opened up about her alcohol addiction, giving up custody of her daughter, and more in her new memoir.

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Warning: this post mentions alcohol addiction, sexual harassment, domestic violence, bullying, and death.

Before the book hit shelves, Hayden’s estranged mother, former actor Lesley Vogel, told Page Six, “The present drama is partially to sell books… There is a personality 'style' which manifests as a need for control, entitlement, and a lack of empathy. The major fear is that someone will see through the mask they present to the world and discover who they truthfully are… This personality style does not accept responsibility for life choices and therefore feels they have no need to alter their behavior.After 20 years of trauma, I took the advice of professionals and chose the no-contact route. As many parents of entertainment children [know], we are all too familiar with the painful observation of watching the self-destructive paths they sometimes choose. No parent hopes for this scenario; we want our children to be the best of themselves and live a peaceful, joyful life! Sadly, this is out of our control. You cannot save someone who does not want to be saved. Radical acceptance is the most difficult challenge any parent must embrace. Unfortunately, I have seen a great deal of such in my life experience."

Referencing the death of her younger son, Jansen, in 2023, she added, "When someone leaves, the smear campaign begins; accusations, anger, belittling, gaslighting, etc. are the classic signs of this behavior style. The craving of drama and punitive action is traditional and to be expected."Hayden did not respond to Page Six’s request for comment at the time.

Back in 2017, Milo reflected on what he learned from their relationship, telling Mr. Porter’s The Journal, “"Never do it again. There are things that happen to you in your life that shape who you are. Everything I've been through from jobs to friendships to partnerships, everything has built me to who I am. You learn from it. You learn a better way of doing things. It wasn't until my mid to late twenties that the job wears on you, relationships wear on you. But I wouldn't change a thing. When you get knocked over the head in life, it builds your perspective."

According to People, Brian pleaded no contest to "two felony counts of injuring a spouse/cohabitant/girlfriend/child's parent." The rest of his charges were dropped. He was sentenced to 45 days in jail,  four years of formal probation, a five-year protective order, $500 in restitution, and 52 domestic violence classes.

Hayden's self-identified ex, Brian Hickerson, told TMZ, "The domestic violence stuff, I think it's like page 272, my chapter. Everybody should read it."

He also said it was "more important for abusers" to read, adding, "My biggest thing about domestic violence is I don't think it is taught early enough in life. Never in my life did I ever get taught what domestic violence was, right? Maybe if I did at an early age, maybe I wouldn't have done what I did. We don't know." 

He's now in an AA group led by Shia LaBeouf.

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