“Hang out with some high-conflict people to give you more perspective/appreciation for each other.”

"One partner plans a date. The other knows only the time, dress code, and expectations: will there be food? Do I have to stand? Do I need earplugs?

In my marriage, I’m the designated planner, responsible for 95%+ of them. For us, that works.

Done so much stuff this way. Double dates to speakeasies and magic shows; stand-up comedy; special restaurant reservations; so many concerts and house concerts. Readings, gallery openings, friends’ screenings... etc., etc."